Dirty Shoes

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March 24, 2012 March 24, 2012

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     Feels like just yesterday I wrote the last post! So, I was so wrong about Selena. So wrong. She was sick up until that next Wednesday, cutting spring break about in half. I felt so bad for her. I called the Dr to see if I needed to bring her in on Monday? Because her bowels hadn’t quit moving and we were going on day 3 of Imodium. Which I later found out, in that same phone conversation, that she needed to expunge the sickness through the same area at which we were stopping up. Selena being sick, is confusing, tiring, and confusing. As soon as she starts to feel bad, she’ll play it to the max. But as soon as she starts to feel just a tad better, then she isn’t sick anymore and is ready to conquer the world. Enough about her sickly bowels.

     The rest of the spring break went, rather hectic. She was tired of me, I was tired of her and we were both ready for a break. So, Thursday, we go to Grammy’s work (with Mrs. Pat and Mr. Bill) and she is my helper for the day. I had dressed her up in the cutest dress. Hogstooth, houndstooth, some old pattern. She was a little Jackie Kennedy and she helped punch holes, make copies and put the fasteners through the files. With an Angry Bird lunch and back to the grind! I am very thankful that I was permitted to have her with me, losing all that work really hurts the pocketbook. I say it went hectic because it’s a huge break in the routine. She was ill, so she thought she wasn’t allowed at school because she was sick and not because it was really a vacation time. I had to keep reminding her that no one was mad at her, and that she still has her friends (when she wasn’t feeling good) and when she was feeling good, I had to remind her that we couldn’t go out anywhere because she was sick. I bet she was so confused!

       Aftercare had went well, and now since I haven’t had her in this past week, all she wants to do is go! Fighting to get on the bus after school. Crying to me in the morning. Being upset when school is about to let out. Gosh, I didn’t realize I had done so much damage with 4 days of aftercare!! They have been telling her that it is closed. I hope that I can afford to put her back in it, she really really seems to enjoy it. Even though the honeymoon was almost over, I think she’ll be smooth sailing for the first week again. I still don’t like doing this to her. Hopefully by next week, she won’t even ask. She really says things that hurts my feelings, but I don’t think she does it on purpose, she just doesn’t understand how powerful language can be! Telling me she didn’t want to come home and be with me, she wanted to stay in aftercare. All this that and the other. 

       She was approved for hippotherapy, so on Thursday Selena and myself met with the therapist at Instride and Selena got her evaluation done! She did so good! I had explained to her what we were going to do and she really had no concept and all the way there kept going on and on about how she was a cowgirl! How she needed to wear a special horse shirt! How she was really going to be a firegirl first and then a cowgirl! But my favorite was, how she’s going to find a big horse and make it smaller and smaller and smaller so it will be her size! I kept explaining to her that she was not going to be riding today, but meeting with a nice lady who was going to see if we would be able to or not. I kept telling her what was going to happen and then asking her to not get upset. Trying to avoid a meltdown, ya know? Selena tells me that, “She’s going to talk to the cowgirl all by herself and that I could stay in the car.” LOL!!! We are going to have FUN around the age of 14. Anyways, we get there and she is just tickled pink! There were 2 riders going around the ring and she instantly wanted a horse like the ‘yellow’ one in the arena (Blonde horse). We go in and she gives the therapist a big hug. Doesn’t introduce herself, nothing. Selena thinks this woman is in charge of the horses and is smoozing already!!! After the hug, she takes Ms. Mary’s hand and says, “Lets go ride the horse!” She just grinned at her and got down to business, making small talk with Selena. 

       I have been catching myself and trying to change my habits. Because when people ask her something, I have had the tendency to respond for her and not give her a chance. She’s gotten so used to that action, that when this therapist asked her questions, Selena instantly looked at me. I made the zipper motion over my mouth and motioned for her to answer. First came the shrugs, when making eye contact, then as she looked away, she started to talk. Never really keeping any solid eye contact at all. But that’s usual for Selena. So yea, I have been breaking my own habits and giving her the time it takes to make a response. And if she just shrugs her shoulders or starts to look upset, I have been placing my hand on her arm and giving her a comforting touch to let her know it’s ok to speak for herself. I hope this works and she feels more confident with her speech. I’m sure this only happens when I’m around and she probably talks off the charts when I’m no where to be found.

     So yes, hippotherapy. Since her core is rather strong, they are going to put her in a saddle and teach her how to ride the horse instead of going bareback and getting those muscles worked, plus all the therapies that come along with riding bareback. So they are going to work with her on sequencing, speaking, directionals, etc. Selena is going to love it!!!! I’m so glad that we found out about this, I would have never known!!! 

       Dentist appointment is scheduled and I’m a bit nervous about that. It’s an 8:30 am appointment. Geesh!!! I hope they schedule her something soon to get the teeth pulled, or they might want to do it then. Oh man. Oh man. Oh man. I think I’m more nervous than she is! I explained to her what they were possibly going to do, and she had no qualms about it at all. She likes to tell people she has 2 extra teeth!! If she only knew… Well, I’m sure she’ll find out soon enough.    

         Last night was tent in the living room night and boy was she happy!!! I let her sleep under it as well. Selena kept waking up all night long and kept asking me to sleep under there with her. So I obliged to her request and got under this tent, comprised of a queen sheet, 3 blankets, 2 bar chairs and 2 kitchen table chairs, I was actually too tall for something and my feet poked out under the legs of the chairs. First time in a long time that my height was an issue!!

     She is currently at Grammy and Papa’s getting a fix of the spoiled life. I am getting a fix of the quiet life. It’s almost too quiet! Must find something else to do now!!!!



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