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December 4, 2011 December 5, 2011

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     Not so much has happened since the last post other than the weather finally felt like winter. For a bit anyway! Oh yea. The finger chewing. Oh my goodness. How out of control has this become?! Nail chewing turned into hang nails which turned into swollen and infected fingers. They look SO PAINFUL! I can’t imagine what that feels like. I remember getting little hang nails and complaining for days until they were all better. Selena keeps chewing them and has 2 fingers that are in bad shape. She has taken almost the whole top layer of her skin off around the bottom of her cuticle and it’s beginning down the side of her finger. We have been trying everything from soaking her hands in Epsom salt, to triple antibiotic ointment (even though we need a drawing salve). Nothing is really helping because she won’t keep her damn fingers out of her mouth. I think we have been able to stop the toe nail chewing, for now at least. Which is surprising, because she typically starts gnawing on them when her finger nails get too short.

     On Friday night she wanted to play by herself in the room and I didn’t think anything of it because that’s what she likes to do. Rarely will she ask us to play with her, although lately she has been asking a bit more frequently. Yay! Usually I’m asking her if I can play with her and she doesn’t want to, that stinks because she is so fun to be around. Anyway, back to Friday night. Selena is chillin by herself, we don’t think much of it, until I realize that she’s being awfully quiet. I peek in on her and she’s sitting under the table just munching away at her already swollen fingers. Enough is enough. Time to take a different approach. Since Selena has her own thought patterns and ways of communicating, it was time to put the tough love aside and get into her world. I simply said to her, “Selena, you are a Princess right? Well look down at your fingers. If you keep chewing on them they are going to turn into Troll fingers. Do you want Troll fingers?” She gives me this look of guilt and was clearly upset, responding with only a small, “No.” I said to her, “Troll fingers are yucky huh? Well you should definitely have Princess fingers and not troll fingers. You aren’t a troll, right?” After that we went and bandaged them back up after a nice washing. She kept repeating that she doesn’t want troll fingers. If you didn’t know her, you would think the problem is solved. But, Selena will keep repeating the rules and what not to do, then turn around and do the complete opposite. The comprehension is not really there yet. Yes, Selena can and does make decisions knowing that there are consequences, so I’m not trying to imply that she is unaware of cause and effect, but she is having problems associating the words to the actions. Her school is doing a great job, and she is beginning to understand a bit better, but we’re still a ways off!

     Saturday was such a laid back day for Selena. She was enjoying the break from everything. Shoot, we didn’t get dressed until about 5pm. It was pajamas all day, I didn’t mind much. She was on a kick playing the Wii. Selena has moved onto golf, I can’t say that is the most exciting game for her, but it is more challenging. She is such a little diva when it comes to playing the Wii. Selena thinks it’s hers and that she is in charge. Oh man. We are working on that one! We also got almost all of the school pics mailed put! The Christmas tree is up and we’ve already put the extra little tree in her room. She was dismantling our tree every night, telling me that the star ornaments are hungry and that she needed to feed them the apples (the red ones), so I’d turn around in the kitchen and she’d have them all lined up and in rows and they were ‘eating’…too cute, but I didn’t want her stepping on one of them or anything. Plus it’s pretty to look at assembled. Heh. Her room is a Christmas haven right now! Bows, lights circling most of the room, her own tree, a countdown to Christmas and of course Selena, our happy little helper! She makes the holidays so much more fun than I originally thought them to be.

     We had some company on Saturday night! Princess and Prince, that was a lot of fun! Selena was here and there at times, with the guitar and bass occasionally upsetting her, so I tried to keep her away from that side of the house. She eventually warmed up to it and was the official bubble blower! Later in the evening, Selena (of course) wasn’t ready for bed yet, so she snuggled up with Princess while we sat around and shared some interesting memories. Selena was eatin it up, she even had Princess rubbing her back, what a lucky gal to have so many people care so deeply for her. Oh yes, and an update on the finger chewing. She did great all day and when it got later in the evening I noticed that she had taken more skin off of one of them and has started to chew on her thumb, there was a new red spot. I made a note to talk to her doctor about it on Friday and have been keeping an eye on her to make sure she keeps them out of her mouth. Good thing we are on the ball with handwashing, or those little hands could be a lot worse by now. I’m hoping persistence and repetition will eventually get her to stop. I’d still like to figure out why she’s doing it, rather than just forcing her to stop.

     This post was from yesterday, and I don’t have time to add anymore thoughts at the time, I’m on the run. But Selena was telling me stories as I was typing them, so below are her renditions of these stories. (Everything is verbatim from her mouth, it is sometimes broken English, but it’s all from her, she was even saying ‘said Selena’)  Enjoy. I was thinking of printing them out and having her illustrate them.

Little Red Riding Hood

Once upon a time there was little red riding hood see Grandma’s.
The wolf on the wood he scare the little red riding hood. Ah!! He was very very very scared, then he see Grandma all the way home.
Then a wolf gonna be Grandma and gonna be him. Wolf gonna see Grandma then bad and wolf wanted to eat little red riding hood.
Oh no! I’m going to scare the wolf and say BOO!
Then the wolf go away and then the wolf sneeze out and sneezed Grandma out. Then he friends.

The End.

Three Little Piggy

Once upon a time there was three little piggy, they build a house. First one have a hay with straws. Wolf says, and I huff an I huff an I blow your house down. Then the second one has a stick. He build all by himself.
Wolf comes says, “Little pig, little pig, let me in.”
“No, no” said little pig, “you not come in there.”
“Then I huff an I puff an I blow your house in.”
Third one have a bricks. Build all by herself. Wolf comes and huff and puff and blow your house in. Couldn’t blow house in, knock it down. Then not blow the house down, they have bricks. They not blow the house down. Then they have wolf soup. “Yum, yum, yum.” said pig. 

Then they lived happily ever after, the end.

Jack and the Beanstalk

Once upon a time there was Jack. He have magic beans. Beans grow up! Then Jack climb. Then a giant up there goes Fee, Fi, Fo, Fum. Then Jack climb down, then giant not come down. Then Jack go in house. Then giant won’t get it, he cut it with the juice
(that means we can drink it)

Then happy ever after, the end.

Goldilocks and the three bears

Once upon a time there was a 3 bears and honey.
Mama bear, Papa bear and baby bear looks for honey. Goldilocks walked on the forest amd saw the bears home.
First one too hot, second bowl too cold, a third bowl just right.
Goldilocks is sleepy and he tried the bed.
First one too hard, second bed too soft, third bed just right.
3 bears went home to see Goldilocks. Goldilocks was sleeping on the baby bear bed.
What happen?

Last one for now, next time I’ll put up the story she wrote about herself.



2 Responses to “December 4, 2011”

  1. maul0r Says:

    I have always been a nail biter and in times of stress I’ve been known to chew on my fingers a bit. I’ve heard that nail biting can be due to needing something to chew on, and also that it’s a reaction to a calcium deficiency… either way it’s probably got a trigger for her, and you just need to figure out what it is and encourage a different behavior as a reaction to that trigger. That’s the best I can guess 🙂

  2. Becky Larimer Says:

    I can’t wait until the day that I can meet this amazing little girl. Thanks so much for sharing what all you girls are going through (& Rob). Our family has always been given broad shoulder to handle whatever has been handed to us. You are doing a wonderful job! Love you much! Auntie Becky

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